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June 22, 2012

Relationships: Making Long-Distance Last

(image via A Gut Jahr)
My boyfriend recently moved away for a job—a huge step for both of us. Going from 20 minutes to a 1,000 miles apart wasn't easy and definitely not desirable. But luckily, a few little gestures have made it bearable and our relationship stronger. 

Long distance is a tough situation for anyone and many people discourage it. While relationships should never be forced, long distance definitely takes some work. The most important thing to remember is patience. Whether you're three hours apart or three continents, a little patience can go a long way. Recognizing and respecting that your man has other responsibilities and a separate life from you can be the difference between every day arguments and mutual understanding.

Designate a time for the two of you to talk, and stick with it. Obviously, there will be times when one of you needs to reschedule, but using Skype or chatting on the phone every day or so keeps you both in the loop about the happenings in one another's life. Without consistent contact, communication becomes an important force in keeping the love alive.

Being romantic may be the most difficult part of long-distance relationships. With limited face-to-face contact, you've got to be creative. Sending little emails or snail mail every once in a while can make a big difference. The personal gesture shows you care enough to take time out of your schedule—writing letters is a pretty much a lost art, but this old-fashioned, simple idea can make your guy feel the love and vice versa. And come on, who doesn't like getting a letter in the mail? I still get excited when I check the mailbox and find something addressed to me (unless it's a bill—where's the fun in that?).

(image via For the Dream)
Most importantly, trust each other. The worst thing you can do is get jealous or bitter about your situation. Think positively, encourage honesty and know that if it's meant to last, it will. Being secure about your relationship can make you feel less alone. Stay busy if you need to, especially when you're feeling down. Spend time with your friends, listen to music, paint—whatever floats your boat.

Remember, cherish the time you do get to spend together. Plan fun little trips and activities and focus on the present. I recently stumbled upon a quote that I think really sums it up well: "The longer you wait for something, the more you'll appreciate it when you get it. 'Cause anything worth having, is definitely worthing waiting for." 

Kristyn is a Life Blogger for Ruffled Feathers. You can read her personal blog and follow her on Twitter.

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